Family Dinner, A Love Letter

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Dear Family Dinner Meal Planner,

I am writing this letter to say THANK YOU! I am writing because, not only have you changed family dinner for myself and my family by offering The Six O’clock Scramble Family Meal Planner, you have changed our entire LIVES!!!!!

Just yesterday my youngest son (4 years old) declared, “I was born with an appetite!” I laughed out loud at his mini-bout of braggadocio. He is right. This is the child whose first pediatrician said, “I have never seen a bigger breast-fed baby!”

That kid was born hungry. He is strong, healthy, and heavier than two of most other kids his age put together! I jest. He has also been my biggest challenge when it comes to eating, food, snacks, meal-time, etc. Here on my blog I have fondly referred to him as Chicken Nugget, because it seemed that after his love for mother’s milk the only other food he would request was that– chicken nuggets.

But I’m getting a bit ahead of myself. Our story of family dinner– and my gratitude and thanks to you, Aviva, for starting, and growing, and sharing, and perfecting The Six O’clock Scramble— began when we got married back in 2008.

Two things were apparent immediately after we tied the knot: first, we needed to have meal plans each week. And second, I didn’t have nearly the repertoire of meals or food prep skills to make dinner-time delicious or enjoyable. In fact, I made some pretty horrible meals!

I’ll never forget one dinner. My husband came home from his demanding publishing job– tired, hungry, ready for a good dinner. I handed him a bowl and he exclaimed, “I love macaroni and cheese from the box!” One bite, and the excitement on his face morphed into a confused, trying-to-hide-disgust facade.

“What is this?” He mumbled through the noodles. The dish was indeed macaroni and cheese from a box, souped up with a standard can of Campbell’s Tomato. I had grown up on this stuff. I was actually crushed he didn’t seem to like it. I was actually starting to cry. “Honey, I just didn’t know what was different about the flavor!” He exclaimed, trying to backpedal. But he was right. It was a horrible meal!

I regrouped. I put together a weekly dinner plan that went something like this: Monday- Greek Salad, Tuesday- Tacos, Wednesday- Boxed Pad Thai, Thursday- Chicken, Friday- Pizza, Weekend– Whatever (probably way too much fast food!!!!). I stuck to this plan exclusively, almost obsessively. I don’t remember how long this went on. It may have even been for a year or more.

The same thing week after week, dinner after dinner. It worked for us for a long time. But finally my husband had had enough. He told me that he couldn’t stand eating Pad Thai for even one more meal. This was sad because, previous to our weekly menu, it had been one of his all-time favorite meals. Now he couldn’t even see it on a restaurant menu without gagging.

Neither of us had the stomach for Greek Salad anymore, and we didn’t really even want to visit our favorite taco stand because we ate them so frequently. We needed HELP! This was probably the darkest time in our quest for family dinner. We moved to a Sunday planning model where I would acridly ask him what he wanted for dinner that week. He would throw out some ideas, some of which I would shoot down, some that I refused to make, a few that I would agree to cook up.

Once I asked my husband what the hardest part of marriage was for him and he replied without missing a beat, “Planning meals.” We hated it. The problems were real, and I now realize they are faced by many, many families. First, it was hard to find meals that were not just delicious or palate appealing, but healthy, as well as time manageable!

Not only that, but I also wanted to set the example of eating healthy, whole, well-balanced meals for my growing family. Our oldest son had now been in a picture for over a year, and I wanted to make sure I was feeding his growing body with the nutrients he needed instead of throwing a few re-heated frozen peas onto his high-chair tray and calling it good.

I could go on, but suffice it to say that AFTER we were introduced to The Scramble, it changed our lives so much that I once found myself calling in to a News Radio program that was asking for dinner planning comments– stories, nightmares, solutions. The Six O’clock Scramble was a veritable SEA CHANGE in our family dinner story.

We found The Scramble through my sister and her husband. In truth, when they told us that they were subscribing to a meal planning service we laughed out loud. In front of them. Yes, we laughed in their faces! Rude. But here’s where we had to eat humble pie.

My sister encouraged me to use her subscription for a two weeks. She couldn’t say enough good about having weekly dinner menus at her finger tips, and a grocery list with EVERYTHING you needed to taser that grocery shopping excursion out in ONE TRIP!!! They also loved the variety of meals they were eating. A different meal every night! Imagine that!

To top it ALL off, the meals were FAST, taking 30 minutes or less to prep. It really did sound TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE! We took her offer and used her subscription for two weeks. I was raving. My husband was smiling. When we sat down to evaluate our impressions at the end of two weeks he said, “I’m in. I haven’t eaten even one meal that wasn’t a 9 or a 10 on a 10 point scale.”

The very next day my sister surprised me with a 6 month Scramble Subscription for my birthday. The rest is history. History that has carried us over three years and hundreds of meals later with The Six O’Clock Scramble.

Aviva Goldfarb, you are a revolutionary. You are a woman of the people. You have enable families EVERYWHERE to share in the joy of family dinner! You have changed our lives beyond any other single decision we have made together as a couple. Bold words, but now as I sit at the dinner table surrounded by my husband and our two beautiful boys a peace and joy come into my heart for that moment every. single. day.

And when you ask that same hungry four-year-old what he had for dinner last night you might be shocked to hear he had Hot and Sour Soup without a chicken nugget supplement! 🙂 That same sweet little man, when asked at our family dinner discussions, almost always cites NOW, meaning right here, right now, this moment– FAMILY DINNER– as his favorite part of his day.

Because of you, Aviva, it is MINE TOO!!! Thank you from the bottom of my heart (and the bottom of my belly)!

XX, Megan

P.S.

Aviva posted this video on The Scramble’s Facebook page a few weeks ago. I watched and cried. THIS is why family dinner is so very important! ❤

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Many of the meals I post here on my blog are from The Scramble. Here’s what you need to know to subscribe. The Scramble is a meal planning service to which you can subscribe here. For a fantastic price you will receive 8 weekly meals which means 8 recipes (main course plus a side dish), complete grocery list, the ability to tweak the number of people you are making for, and full nutrition facts.

PLUS tips as to how best to PREP your meal beforehand, add a punch of FLAVOR, and how to SLOW COOK almost every recipe if you’re especially slammed that night. This wonderful service really does live up to it’s name. You can come home at 6 p.m. and be sitting down to a DELICIOUS, HEALTHY, HOME COOKED meal by 6:30 p.m. most nights.

Hot and Sour Soup

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We’ve been hit by some pretty nasty colds here at our house, so I was excited to make this delicious Hot and Sour Soup from The Scramble as both a warm and soothing alternative to a classic chicken noodle.

Not only that, but the healing attributes of ginger are well known, and this soup was the perfect way to incorporate some of those clearing and healing tastes and smells into our home.

I also love the addition of the tofu, rather than a meat. Both of the boys gobbled it up, and I’ve been sipping on leftovers for lunch this week. YUM! Do you have any favorite soups or stews you love to make during colder months?

After making this meal I was remembering how much I love this Rainbow Soup I made last year with it’s bright colors and delicious flavors. I’d love to know some of your family soup favorites! Have a blessed Tuesday, and keep on trucking’!!!

XX, Megan

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1 tsp. sesame oil
2 oz. shiitake or oyster mushrooms, stemmed if using shiitakes and thinly sliced (about 1/3 cup)
1 tsp. minced garlic, (about 2 cloves)
1 tsp. fresh ginger, peeled and finely chopped
* 1/8 tsp. crushed red pepper flakes (optional)
4 cups reduced-sodium chicken or vegetable broth
1 carrot, quartered and thinly sliced
4 tsp. cornstarch
2 Tbsp. reduced-sodium soy sauce (use wheat/gluten-free if needed)
1/4 cup rice vinegar (I used apple cider vinegar)
1 egg, beaten
8 oz. extra-firm tofu, cut into 1/2-inch cubes (about 1 1/2 cups), drained and wrapped in a clean towel for a few minutes
2 scallions, dark and light green parts, thinly sliced

 

Directions

In a large saucepan, heat the oil over medium-low heat. Add the mushrooms, garlic, ginger and pepper flakes (optional) and sauté for 2 minutes until the mushrooms start to get tender and the garlic is fragrant. Add the broth and carrots, bring it to a boil, reduce the heat and simmer until the carrots are tender, about 3 minutes.

Meanwhile, put the cornstarch in a small bowl and whisk in the soy sauce and vinegar. Slowly whisk the cornstarch mixture into the soup, and simmer for 2 more minutes until the soup has thickened slightly. Pour in the egg and stir the soup rapidly until the egg cooks and thickens the soup, about 2 minutes. Add the tofu and scallions, cover and let it stand for 1 minute. Serve it immediately or refrigerate it for up to 3 days.

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*The Scramble is a meal planning service to which you can subscribe here. For a fantastic price you will receive 8 weekly meals which means 8 recipes (main course plus a side dish), complete grocery list, the ability to tweak the number of people you are making for, and full nutrition facts.

PLUS tips as to how best to PREP your meal beforehand, add a punch of FLAVOR, and how to SLOW COOK almost every recipe if you’re especially slammed that night. This wonderful service really does live up to it’s name. You can come home at 6 p.m. and be sitting down to a DELICIOUS, HEALTHY, HOME COOKED meal by 6:30 p.m. most nights.

Olive You

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Continuing my Spring dress roll, I pulled this little number out of the closet. I really do LOVE OLIVE– truly a versatile neutral. Add some statement sunnies, a red lip, and heels and you’re ready to take on anything!

One great thing about neutral greens is that they are easily worn for any season, and easily dressed up or down. This dress would take on casual Saturday brunch with slip ons and a baseball cap like a champ!

I hope your week begins with wellness, wholeness, and general warm feelings! Happy Monday!

XX, Megan

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Blazer: Banana Republic (past season, similar, similar), Dress: Target (similarsimilar, similarsimilar, love this one, great option, or choose chino!), Shoes: Steve Madden (similar), Sunglasses: Karen Walker Super Duper Strength, Necklaces: Gorjana (knox, super star), Watch: Invicta, Bracelets: J.Crew, Lips: Stila Beso

Six Spring Dresses

7 Spring DressesI have been on a dress kick all week! Seriously, even when the weather has really been less than stellar I’ve tried to throw on a dress. In that spirit I rounded up some of my current favorite Spring dresses. Six of them, to be exact!

One thing that makes dresses fun in early Spring is the chance to layer them with different sorts of outerwear. We’ve talked about some of those outerwear options here on Refined + Rugged before.

But at the risk of banging the same drum over and over, if you want to throw on that frilly little lace dress and keep it weather appropriate layer a leather moto jacket over it. If you are hankering to put on your new gingham sundress pair it with a long anorak or utility jacket.

If you want to go full on boho but save yourself some goose bumps, bring out the jean jacket. You get the idea!

Welcome, Friday! And bring on the weekend!!!

XX, Megan

Dresses: White, Blue, Black, Stripe, Denim, Gingham

The Stripe

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The sun is out today, and temps are nearing 60. I said my piece about embracing winter, but gosh! the bright rays really make a girl feel good!

If you’ve followed along on my style journey here on Refined + Rugged you will already know of my penchant for The Stripe. I really truly do love stripes! Some people are a fan of the stripe, some people are not.

But regardless of your leaning– toward or away from stripes– there are few things as easy to throw on and look pulled together as a shift dress. Choose a solid color, floral pattern, or eclectic print if it suits YOU!!!

May your Thursday be filled with all of the best. TGIT!

XX,  Megan

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Jacket: Caslon (past, similar, similar) , Dress: J.Crew (past, similar), Shoes: J.Crew (past, similar, similar, similar), Sunglasses: Ray-ban, Necklace: Aldo, Lips: MAC Neon Orange