El Deafo: Cece Bell

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When I began this blog I had the overblown aspiration that I would do a Book Review post every week. I don’t have enough online laughter for that idea at this point (heck, I haven’t even been able to maintain Science Friday this school year).

Despite my lack of time to read for myself, I have had increasing opportunity to read with my children. Which is awesome. I grew up in a home where reading was a priority. Hello English teacher mother! I wanted to carry this trait into my own home.

If you read any Freakonomics back in the day, you know that according to Stephen Dubner and Steven Levitt (link to USA Today article, and Marketplace article ) there is NO SHOWN correlation between reading to your children and raising standardized test scores. (However there is a correlation in student test scores and HOW MANY books they have in their homes. Go figure.) In fact, they purportedly found that it is not HOW you parent, but WHO you are as a parent that counts.

For my part, I press on in reading to my children (fruitlessly, in terms of economic utility:). I DO believe that it builds brain cells and lifelong connections to understanding information and educational processes.

Our school system has also helped to solidify our reading resolve. My oldest is required to read 20-30 minutes each evening. While there are many nights we’ve read more than the required minutes, the accountability of reading charts has kept us on a track and geared to consistent, everyday reading patterns.

Along these lines we are ALWAYS looking for new reading material. I posted some of our favorite reads this summer here. But the search perpetually continues.

I recently picked up El Deafo from my oldest son’s school Book Fair. I could not be more surprised, enthusiastic, overjoyed, and excited to share this wonderful book with all of you!

Purchasing El Deafo was a complete FLUKE. Other than the fact that it was a Newburry Honor Book, I didn’t have any inkling how WONDERFUL this book would be for my children and for ME! I LOVED IT!

El Deafo follows the life of Cece Bell. A little girl who becomes deaf (partially so, you’ll learn more about her harrowing illness in the text) at age four.

Cece attends an all deaf school in Kindergarten where she is in a classroom of all deaf students her age. Here she is taught to lip read, a pivotal skill in her real world arsenal of integrative tools. Very quickly Cece’s is given the opportunity to use her lip reading skills when she is placed in a normative school class in First Grade.

For various reasons (read the book, and you’ll know!) Cece creates an alter ego name El Deafo!!! El Deafo, Cece’s super hero persona, allows Cece’s internal-counciousness safety and respite from a world that is often full of misunderstanding and misjudgment for people with disability.

For example, Cece doesn’t need her teachers or friends to talk more LOUDLY or more slowly on her behalf. She simply needs them to look her full in the face so that she can read their lips properly. In fact, speaking more loudly and slowly often inhibits Cece’s ability to understand the speaker. It would never have crossed my mind that speaking slowly and loudly to someone hard of hearing might actually be MORE difficult before reading El Deafo.

However, that is also not to say that Cece’s needs are the same needs that others with disabilities need or will struggle with. For example, Cece’s mother takes her to an American Sigh Language class. But instead of feeling served, further integrated into the classroom, or excited to be able to use Sign as an avenue of further communication from others, Cece feels as though learning ASL only causes further distance between herself and her peers.

She feels as thought the class members are signing AT her not TO her. They are using her to increase their Signing skills, but don’t care to actually KNOW who Cece is, or what SHE truly cares about.

The key statement Bell makes is that while disability may make that particular human DIFFERENT, unique, or misunderstood, disability doesn’t  but it doesn’t make them not human or un-human. Cece’s desire to be “normal” is very real. Her desire for her friends, family, classmates, teachers, and neighbors is to treat her in the same manner as her peers is VERY strong.

This diagram of Cece’s phonic ears helps us to understand some of the difficulties she faces when it comes to being different, but wanting to be included and normal.

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Hilarious, right?!? I loved this book because of it’s humor. I cannot tell you how many times I laughed out loud. I cannot tell you how many times I said, “Oooooh!” For me that “OOooh.” Was a breakthrough in my understanding into the nuances, needs, desires, and alternative world that those with disabilities live in and face every day.

Cece Bell has connectively, communicatively, compassionately created a BEAUTIFUL BRIDGE between the world of disability (no matter how different and INDIVIDUAL those needs and mechanics are for each person) and the world of the normal. She explains the reality of the loneliness her disability brought her. She details the friends who POPPED her bubble of loneliness and made her hearing aids and phonic ear a NON-issue in their friendship.

She explains her desires to be the same as everyone else, while also celebrating her Super Human Abilities to understand and even fight disability head on through the character of El Deafo.

The truth of the matter is that children with disabilities may have different needs than other children. They may have specific tools, like hearing aids, which are necessary to cope and integrate in the world around them. But they are also looking for those basic human desires– love, inclusion, compassion, acceptance, friendship.

I saw this book as a beautiful way to teach my boys about the need for love, care, inclusion, empathy, and always seeking further understanding for children and adults with disabilities. Thank you for building this bridge, Cece Bell! Run out and grab a copy of this beautiful book for YOURSELF today!

XX, Megan

Mens Winter Edit

Mens Winter Edit

We’re waiting for snow here in the mountains. Read: I am happy to let autumn have it’s moment and continue to enjoy burnished leaves and blustery days, but the ski crew at my house are holding their breaths for a huge dump of the white stuff!!

Every time a flurry falls there is much wonder, amazement, joy, and encouraging words for more here around our house, but nothing is sticking yet.

I’ve put together a Men’s Winter Edit for you today. Everything your Mountain Man needs to fight the bitter cold this season, and look primo while doing so! Maybe a few of these items will make it onto his Christmas list. Enjoy your Friday, revel in your weekend!!!

XX, Megan

Mens Winter Edit Links Below:

Smith Cornice Sunglasses

Canada Goose Citadel Parka

Tumbled Leather Belt

Grandpa’s Coziest Sweater

Perfect Buffalo Topper

Warm and Toasty Vest

Stomp the Cold Boots

Super Snazzy Socks

Marled Wonder Hat

Vampy Gray Day

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“Why so seriousss?” I have to say that one of the more interesting parts of this blog has been taking outfit photos. Sometimes, it has been a lot of fun. Sometimes it has been equal parts trying. Sometimes I genuinely wonder why I am having pictures taken of myself at all!

Case in point– the beyond serious looks I am casting in a few of these photos. Despite the serious appearance of my face I can assure that I don’t take myself too seriously. This outfit is a testament to gray scale, and the saving grace that black, gray, charcoal and the like can be in your wardrobe.

Perplexed about what to wear? Tired of mediocre wardrobe choices? Go back to black. Black will give you that pulled together look time after time. The cognac bag and booties, let’s just chalk those up to points of flare for this outfit. But in a pinch I’d sub these saddle leather boots for a suede pair of black heals and a sleek black clutch and call it good.

As for taking yourself too seriously. Doesn’t reality remedy those pangs on the daily?!? Have a seriously wonderful Thursday, friends!

XX, Megan

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Sweater: Old Navy, Pants: H&M, Booties: Sam Edelman, Bag: Etsy, Necklace: Gorjana, Sunglasses: Ray-ban, Lips: Revlon Black Cherry

Butternut Squash Soup: Two Versions

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More fall food fare here on Refined + Rugged. I am licking my lips just thinking about this delicious soup. I served it this past weekend at our 3rd annual Pumpkin Carving Party!!! In actuality, I think we may have carved pumpkins the first year, but each year as the kiddos have grown and the invite list has gotten longer, we really haven’t carved any pumpkins that evening!!

I make a Butternut Squash Soup every year, and friends usually bring a couple different flavors. This year we enjoyed a dynamite White Chili from David, and a delicious homemade Chicken Noodle Soup from Liza (read EVEN THE NOODLES WERE HOMEMADE!!!).

I am posting both recipes for squash soup that I enjoy. The first comes from The Scramble. This is the soup I made for our par-tay this year. I liked this soup because of the light apple notes. A great fall bouquet of flavors, plus I subbed shallots for the onion. It was SOOOOO yummy!

The second soup also includes curry and boasts a little dose of heavy cream. It has some lower, smoother flavors. The second recipe has been is my go-to Squash Soup for years, and it is an ALWAYS favorite!!! You can’t go wrong with either recipe. I’d love to hear your feedback. Which did you make? What were your thoughts on the flavor? With out further ado…

On with the SOUP!!!

XX, Megan

Ingredients

2 Tbsp. butter
1 sweet yellow onion such as Vidalia or Walla Walla, chopped
3 – 4 lbs. butternut squash, peeled, seeded and diced
1 red apple, such as Gala or Fuji, peeled and diced
1 tsp. curry powder
1/2 tsp. ground ginger, or use 1 Tbsp. fresh minced ginger
1/8 tsp. ground cinnamon
3 cups reduced-sodium vegetable or chicken broth
1 Tbsp. extra virgin olive oil (optional)
1/4 cup fresh sage leaves (optional)
2 Tbsp. apple cider, or use apple butter or apple juice
1/2 cup reduced-fat sour cream or plain yogurt (optional)

Directions

In a large stockpot, melt half the butter over medium heat, and when it is bubbling, add the onions. After about 3 minutes, add the squash and apples, and sauté with the onions for about 5 minutes. Add the curry powder, ginger and cinnamon and cook for 2 more minutes. Add the broth, raise the heat and bring it to a boil, then cover and simmer it for 15 minutes, reducing the heat as needed, until the squash is tender. (Meanwhile, prepare the salad, if you are serving it.) Puree the soup in a standing blender or in the pot with an immersion/hand blender.

Meanwhile, to make the crispy sage leaves, in a small skillet, heat the remaining butter and the oil over medium to medium-high heat. When it is hot, add the sage leaves and cook them until they are brown and crispy, about 2 minutes. Remove them from the heat.

Stir the apple cider into the soup, and serve it hot, seasoned with coarse salt and freshly ground black pepper to taste, and topped with crumbled leaves of crispy sage, if desired.

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Butternut Squash Curry Soup

Two things about this recipe: 1. It’s better made the day before serving. The curry has a chance to really augment and it tastes much better. 2. I just buy a squash and use whatever I get out of that. I’ve never come up with 3 cups, but it doesn’t seem to diminish the soup.

Ingredients
1 small onion
1/4 cup chopped celery (I at least double)
2 tablespoons butter or margarine
2 tablespoons all-purpose flour
1 teaspoon chicken bouillon granules
1/2 teaspoon dill weed
1/4 teaspoon curry powder (I double)
dash cayenne pepper
2 cups chicken broth
1 (12 ounce) can evaporated milk (I use half and half because I like
it better, but the original is fine too.)
3 cups mashed cooked acorn squash
salt and pepper to taste
5 bacon strips, cooked and crumbled

Directions
In a large saucepan, saute the onion and celery in butter. Stir in flour, bouillon, dill, curry and cayenne until blended. Gradually add broth and milk. Bring to a boil; cook and stir for 2 minutes. Add the squash, salt and pepper; heat through.

In a blender, process the soup in batches until smooth. Alternatively, you can use an immersion blender to smooth your soup. Pour into bowls; garnish with bacon.

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Haven’t tired of these flares yet. In fact, they are a fabulous wardrobe update and throwback all in one piece. To take your favorite pants into winter you need nothing more than to pair them with your favorite sweater, a close-toed shoe, and whatever piece of flare you choose.

I’ve got my eye on a round pair of sunglasses just to pair with these pants, that’s how  much I am loving the 70s resurgence this season. Stay tuned, I’m sure I will find a feasible way to pair these flares with snow boots. (I’m laughing at myself right now!) A girl can dream, right?

Have a wonderful day, and a blessed week!

XX, Megan

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Sweater: J.Crew (old, current season), Pants: Madewell (or this darker wash), Bag: Madewell (not available on Madewell’s site, but still over at Shop Bop), Shoes: Toms, Sunglasses: Ray-ban (or here), Lips: NARS Barebella