Curves: Bold Prints and Belled Bottoms

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Oh Thursday, sometimes you are the best part of the week. Getting to you feels like making it. Making it here feels like Friday will come! It’s coming!

In one of my first outfit photos I wore a pair of fabulous flare jeans. It was in this Valentine’s Day post, to be exact. When I posted the picture of those dark wash flares, plus a comment about how I felt that flares could really accentuate ANY woman’s form and figure, one of my good friends asked, “Flares? Really? Are they really back?!”

I’m here with this white pair of flared jean goodness to let you know that, YES! The flare is back! Badder than ever. I feel as though the time some folks must have spent tailoring them in the 70s is really paying off for the modern girl. Finding your fit is easier than ever. High-waisted, or mid-rise, big bell or perfect petit kick, there are so many options to choose from.

Try one of these: one, two, three, four, five, six, seven. My current favorite are these Flea Market Flares from Madewell. I think the only real key to picking a favorite pair is making sure they hug you in all the right places. Honor your curves (and if you’re a straight shooter you’ll create instant vavooom!). Hips, butt, thighs, and wha-bam! A beautiful bell right down at the floor.

Hope your day is one you enjoy living.

XX, Megan

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Shirt: J.Crew (on sale!), Pants: Joe’s Jeans, Shoes: Clarks (similar), Bag: J.Crew (similar, save, or splurge), Sunglasses: Karen Walker ‘Super Duper’ Tortoise, Belt: J.Crew (similar), Watch: Invicta, Earrings: Madewell, Lips: Buxom White Russian

Sizzling Korean Beef

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The flavor in this dish is DYNAMITE! Especially if you like the snap that fresh ginger brings to a marinade. The recipe comes from *The Six O’Clock Scramble. So savory and a real win over here at Refined + Rugged. Try it for yourself! I’d love to hear how yours turns out.

XX, Megan

Ingredients for main dish 

  • 1 1/4 – 1 1/2 lbs. skirt steak
  • 1/4 cup reduced-sodium soy sauce (use wheat/gluten-free if needed)
  • 1 Tbsp. sesame seeds
  • 1 Tbsp. sesame oil
  • 1 Tbsp. fresh ginger, grated
  • 1 1/2 tsp. minced garlic, (2 – 3 cloves)
  • 1/2 Asian pear, peeled and grated
  • 1 yellow onion, halved top to bottom and thinly sliced

Served with brown rice and steamed broccoli.

Chop: Chop the onion in half top to bottom and then thinly slice. Grate the pear and the ginger. Mince the garlic (I use a garlic crusher.) Slice the steak into thin strips cutting across the grain.

Mix: In a large bowl mix the soy sauce, sesame seeds, sesame oil, ginger, garlic, and onion. Add the steak and coat thoroughly.

Marinate: You can marinate this dish for as little as 10 minutes and as long as 24 hours. I am a huge fan of the 24 let. it. sit! But tonight we were strapped for time, so I gave it a good 15 minutes which is all I had to give!

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Start: If you are planning on using quick cooking brown RICE, you can start it now before you add the meat to the skillet. (I was using the 45 minute jobby, so I started my brown rice before I began any meal prep whatsoever.) Now is also a great time to start your steamed you broccoli.

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Sauté: Saute the meat by putting 1/2 of the meat (plus marinade and onions) into a piping hot skillet. Cook for about 4 minutes. Remove to a serving dish and then cook the remaining 1/2 of the meat for 4 minutes.

Steam: I actually sautéed our broccoli in 1 Tbsp. olive oil and then added 2 Tbsp. water and covered it for about 10 minutes (maybe less). I added sesame seeds and a Tbsp. of soy sauce to the broccoli just before it was done.

Eat!

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*The Scramble is a meal planning service to which you can subscribe here. For a fantastic price you will receive 5 weekly meals which means 5 recipes, complete grocery list, the ability to tweak the number of people you are making for, and full nutrition facts. PLUS tips as to how best to PREP your meal beforehand, add a punch of FLAVOR, and how to SLOW COOK almost every recipe if you’re especially slammed that night. This wonderful service really does live up to it’s name. You can come home at 6 p.m. and be sitting down to a DELICIOUS, HEALTHY, HOME COOKED meal by 6:30 p.m. most nights.

Mastering Parisian Chic: A Rose By any Other Stripe

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There’s no doubt that the tropes of Parisian Chic and French Feminine Mystique are being RE-Celebrated in the 21st century with an astute eye toward that cultural masters of subtle sexiness. These concepts have stretched out, extended, if you will, from fashion into other aspects of life.

Do you want to raise your progeny like the French? Bringing Up Bebe is the bible for you. Dress with the impeccably off-hand daily glamour of a French woman? How to Be a Parisian Wherever You Are: Love, Style, and Bad Habits is a great read (and this Wiki-How article “How to Have Parisian Style” made me laugh, but was actually semi-informative). What about mimicking the French diet to achieve that svelte, sleek appearance long after your twenties? The Parisian Diet by Dr. Jean-Michael Cohen is the perfect guide. (Also loved this article on the subject of the book, and this review.)

Needless to say, this outfit has every thing you could wish for in French fashion circles if you ask me. Some stripes, some cool, and some classic heels.

So go out there and frustrate your children, throw on on outfit that simultaneously screams pulled-together and laid-back chic, and savor your food, friends. It might not make French, but it may make you feel sexy-cool even for just a moment!

XX, Megan

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DSC_0046 - Version 2Jacket: Zara (similar), Cardigan: Target (similar), Shirt: J.Crew, Pants: J.Crew, Bag: J.Crew (similar), Shoes: Nine West (similar), Sunglasses: Oakley, Watch: Invicta, Earrings: J.Crew (similar), Lips: Stila Beso

“I exist, I exist!”: StoryCorps and Listening’s Power: Part I

images-1 I actually don’t remember the first time I listened to a StoryCorp interview. Which is funny because I used to be able to remember every intersection, every cross-roads, every meeting, every date and almost every name for every person I’d encountered on this beautiful green and blue globe. (I blame having children for my reversion to simple memory.)

I don’t remember the first STORY I heard on StoryCorp either, but there have been so many now, that this is no surprise either. But I do REMEMBER almost every story I’ve heard.

StoryCorp was begun in 2003 by David Isay, longtime documentary film and radio producer. Winner of a MacArthur genius award, and personal story champion extraordinaire!

Isay and his team set up what they called a ‘listening booth’ in Grand Central Terminal, New York, New York. The booth was a small sound studio, where you were invited into a comfortable room by a story facilitator, lights dimmed for ambiance, and given 40 minutes to record whatever you wanted about your life, times, or personal story.

The objective was not only to record personal interviews, but to capture interviews between two people who knew each other well– husbands and wives, brothers and sisters, friends and close co-workers, or you and the guy you’d been drinking coffee next to at the same neighborhood cafe for 20 years. Intimate conversations between family, friends, loved ones.Unknown Isay’s purpose was to record the voices of the PEOPLE. These interviews would then be archived in the Library of Congress. The Big Grand-daddy of all other Library’s. The Library in America’s Capitol. The place that holds some of the most treasured works of writing and sound on earth.

THERE, in that edifice to learning, the interviews will be kept so that in 100 years, someone’s great-grandchild could go in and request to hear the interview between their mother and a facilitator about the day her ex-husband called from the 103rd floor before his death in the World Trade Center attack, a grand-niece or nephew could pull up a recording of their uncle and his friend remembering the day they were left alone to care for an entire assisted living facility when everyone else walked off the job, a man describing to his wife what it felt like to serve in Afghanistan, or a police officer interviewing a boy he had talked down from a bridge jump 10 years previous. And that doesn’t even begin to scratch the surface.

You can hear an in-depth (about an hour) description of how Isay came to produce StoryCorp here, here, and here (it’s in three parts). This was a conference address Isay gave to the International Feature Conference in London, 2012. One of the most important take aways from that presentation was a story that David told about one of the sparks that sparked the idea that became StoryCorp.

In brief: Isay did a film project which was later turned into a book focusing on Sunshine Hotel. Sunshine Hotel was a flop house in the Bowery neighborhood of NYC, a hold-over from a huge homeless population that lived in there from the depression era through much of the 50s and even 60s.

Guests of Sunshine Hotel could stay at the hotel for $5.00 a night, and sometimes that night stretched into two years of nights. The narrator Nathan Smith, describes the fact that Sunshine Hotel has its own microcosmic societal universe– a laundry service, a guy who will clean your room for you and Rick, a Vietnam vet who will run your errands for tips.

The cast of characters is colorful to put it lightly, and Isay describes the moment when he took the galleys of the book based on his film work there at Sunshine Hotel BACK to show some of the residents still living there. One gentleman grabbed his picture from the pages of the galley and took off down the hall of the hotel yelling, “I exist, I exist!!” Waving his picture over his head as he ran.

This so impacted Isay, the idea that someone would be so moved, so touched, so excited, so legitimated, so real to themselves by seeing their own picture and story taped and in print that he dedicated his life to preserving the stories of others. Something he was already doing in his film and radio work, but something he dug deeper to the CORE of with StoryCorp.

If you get nothing else from this post, I hope you will listen to/watch the love story of Danny and Annie Perasa. Danny and Annie were some of the first people to be interviewed in that first listening booth in Grand Central Terminal (Isay estimates somewhere within the first 30 days).

Their story is simply beautiful. And because Danny and Annie visited in StoryCorps early days, they actual came back many times to record interviews with one another as well as many, many people they brought with them.

Here is their STORY:

https://youtu.be/WNfvuJr9164

My EXPERIENCE with StoryCorp was cemented over and over again on the commute between our tiny 600 sq. ft. apartment in Alexandria, VA and the campus of The George Washington University where I studied for my Masters Degree, and L St where my husband worked in D.C.

An interview is played every Friday on NPR’s Morning Edition. If you haven’t ever heard of StoryCorp you should check out their website. You can like their page on Face Book and link to every Morning Edition interview, or read the book of interviews, Listening is an Act of Love, Isay published in 2007, or go to the Library of Congress and ask to listen to one of the interviews that’s been archived.

That listening experience has been concreted over and over and over again. Partially through some of my own research into personal natrative and StoryCorp, but mostly from hearing those interviews broadcast Friday upon Friday.

I heard one just last week that brought tears to my eyes. The truth is that these words, these interviews, are the most true and pure essence of the human spirit I have ever come across. They are real, raw recording of people like you and me. They are poignant, and as Isay points out time and time again– they are poetry. The poetry of human existence. storycorp Today, instead of that first sound booth in Grand Central, you might record your interview with your loved one in a fully outfitted Air Stream mobile booth.

StoryCorp has taken their initiative to the road and criss-crossed America capturing over 100,000 interviews around the country– all archived at the Library of Congress.

But there’s more, and I’m going to be sharing those exciting updates surrounding StoryCorp on Friday. David Isay won the 2015 TED prize, and what he did with that prize will astound you.

I promise that this affects you MORE THAN YOU THINK. Maybe more than you will ever know. I hope you’ll have a listen.

See you back here Friday! (And hopefully every day in between 🙂

XX, Megan

Boy Blazers and Neon

DSC_0256DSC_0257DSC_0260 DSC_0259 Most of the elements of this outfit are classics– blazer, pointy toe flats, pin-dot button down. The edge comes in the unexpected– the neon orange of the shoe, the blazer paired with utility pants, the shirt buttoned up to the tip top, chunky accessories– just the right amount of fun if you ask me.

This is the perfect mom-about-town rig. It’s comfortable, has a bit of fun and edge, and can carry me from dawn to dusk without looking back, and maybe even sustain a dirty hand or two without a show and tell. Perfect! How do you play with your wardrobe? Any fun outfits you’ve pulled out lately?

The rest of the weekend will rush on– comings and goings, play time and relaxation– I hope you enjoy the journey of it all!

Have a wonderful one!

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Blazer: J.Crew (on sale!), Shirt: J.Crew (old similar classic), Pants: Target (old, similar here), Shoes: J.Crew (past season, similar here), Sunglasses: Karen Walker ‘Super Duper’, Bracelet: J.Crew, Watch: Invicta, Lips: MAC Neon Orange